Notes from a Marriage Geek
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Holiday Family Stress Post 2024
Winter is hitting early in Minnesota this year. We may be doing better than most of the country when it comes to the climate crisis but it can be unpredictable. Like everything else around here… who knows what is coming next?
I wrote this “Assertiveness Bill of Rights” years ago- adapted from a piece by Manuel J. Smith ‘When I say no, I feel guilty’.
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Divorce in the Dystopia
Feminist News posted a (satirical) meme claiming that “Nine male GOP members of Congress have been given divorce papers by their wives since Donald Trump was reelected”. I got excited and shared it before Snopes checking it. Ok- so not true. I so wanted it to be true. I wanted to believe that my Republican sisters had found their voice, their own resistance. And maybe they will. Maybe this is…
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The Resistance Begins Today
2016 Election post Trying to be with my feelings today. I am crushed. Betrayed. Heartbroken. I am hurt and scared. I am pissed. So… I’m leaning into pissed. I am pissed that the election can be controlled by a bunch of people who do not love our country. By people who fear the contributions of immigrants and women and people of color. By people who love power and money more…
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Agitated this week? Who isn’t?
Of course you are. Apparently, half the country would rather we move toward fascism than trust a brilliant woman of color to lead us. The world is unstable. Our climate is unstable, our economy is unstable. We live in a world that centers the needs of billionaires. Women, people of color, immigrant families, the LGBQT community, anyone dealing with a disability, and all their friends and families are not safe…
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I Love Fiercely!
I was dating this guy a few years ago and he asked what I thought my greatest asset was. Without hesitation, I replied, “I love fiercely!” He told me he was thinking more about my legs. We were not on the same planet. If I were going to recommend one book on relationships it would be bell hooks “All About Love: New Visions.” It is a book I return to…
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Writers Block? Maybe Burnout? Or Persistent Drive for Autonomy?
I loved blogging. I did it most Thursdays for over 15 years. Blogging taught me to write and gave me an audience. It led to me offering workshops and becoming a professional speaker. Then I fell off a wall and just couldn’t do it anymore. Read more here. Read my 2019-2024 Season Recap here. I have tried everything to get back to it. I have cleaned my house, transplanted all…
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I’m Back! A Quick Update
I went to login to my account and had no idea where it was. I last posted in March 2020. I’m not totally sure what all transpired since then but here are the “high” lights. after breaking my ankle and needing surgery, I spend all of January and February on the couch. I was freed to finally walk on March 8th…then stuff got really interesting. I had to find a…
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Of Course You’re Worried, We’re All Worried
I’ve stepped away from blogging in 2020. Going through a ton of my own growth and exploration right now has me feeling uncentered. My opinions change weekly, I’m questioning everything and in no place to be a “relationship expert”. The ankle is mostly healed. I am doing lots of physical therapy to get back to hiking and yoga as soon as possible. The “babies” turned 16 and 18 last week,…
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Falling on my A$$
2020 has decided to teach me some tough lessons. On New Year’s Eve, my three kids, my nephew and I went to Vertical Endeavors to go bouldering. (Bouldering is a form of rock climbing that is performed on small rock formations or artificial rock walls without the use of ropes or harnesses. And as VE reminds you every time- Bouldering is inherently dangerous.) I fell off the wall, shattering my ankle.
