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Divorce in the Dystopia
Feminist News posted a (satirical) meme claiming that “Nine male GOP members of Congress have been given divorce papers by their wives since Donald Trump was reelected”. I got excited and shared it before Snopes checking it. Ok- so not true. I so wanted it to be true. I wanted to believe that my Republican sisters had found their voice, their own resistance. And maybe they will. Maybe this is…
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Marriage Story- A Movie Review
When it came to Netflix this week I figured Marriage Story could make a great blog post…and this is that…but not in the way I thought. It is a beautiful, well written movie with amazing acting…although Black Widow marries Kylo Ren does seem like a really dangerous idea.
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A little (too much) self disclosure
Quick update, all is well. Kids are good, I am good. We have it figured out as much as anyone ever can. Which isn’t to say I have life figured out.
Remember what the Velveteen Rabbit says about how love makes you real?
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Divorce Musings- Not all problems are created equally
We live in a culture that frames marriage as good for people, the bedrock of society and divorce as a sign of moral failure and selfishness that destroys children and undermines our country’s core values. That just never worked for me. I don’t see divorce as selfish. I don’t see people treating their marriages as disposable. I see people struggling and suffering and desperate to find a way to save their marriages. I see divorce as painful but not necessarily destructive.
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Feeling the Love!
Last week I went out on a limb and revealed that my marriage is ending. Not an easy thing for anyone to admit, super weird as the Marriage Geek. A friend wondered if I would have to give up my Marriage Geek status… No way! I got so much support from you all. I am only more committed to bringing you my best, most honest stuff as I move forward…
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The Marriage Geek Getting Real
10 years ago, I branded myself the “Marriage Geek” and focused my career on helping people build strong families, blending my experiences as a marriage counselor with the best relationship research I could find. Both professionally and personally, I am fascinated with why marriage and parenting are so freaking hard. I’ve tried to be genuine and vulnerable about topics that need more heart than head. I have also hidden some…
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When is it Time to Go?
Rumor has it that divorce is too easy. Rumor has it that people don’t try hard enough. Rumor has it that people treat marriage like it is disposable. I know some silly celebrities (and politicians) have a string of exes but I don’t know real people who do that. Ok Huff Post does have a Starter Marriage page. (A starter marriage is a first marriage that lasts five years or…
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Just a bunch of divorce musings…. When is it time to leave?
(If you see yourself in this week’s newsletter, you’re right…all of you who can’t decide, who want me to tell you what to do, who are waiting for a sign, who are so unhappy that it can’t be good for anyone. This time I really am talking to you…oh but not all of you…) I went to this fantastic training sponsored by Erickson Mediation last week. http://ericksonmediation.com/resources/emi-newsletter/ I trained with…
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The one that isn’t really about Brad and Angelina
I love using celebrity gossip to talk about the marriage work in my office. (All I know about Angelina and Brad I got from People Magazine) There are two stories and those stories are connected but no one is quite sure how. #1 Brad is under investigation for child abuse by Children and Family services. He is accused of getting verbally abusive and “physical” with one of their kids on…
