Category / Mindfullness / stress
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Creating Security in an Insecure World
We humans need security. We want to know we are safe and we are loved and it is all going to be ok. And yet… it isn’t all ok, it isn’t always safe and it sometimes isn’t going to be ok. And even being loved can be taken away. Enough good news? I certainly wouldn’t blame you for walking away about now.
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Revisiting Mindful Parenting
Be with Your Kid Now
Mindfulness- “the intentional, accepting and non-judgmental focus of one’s attention on the emotions, thoughts and sensations occurring in the present moment”. Simple…and hard.
Mindful parenting comes from that zen, centered place where we can respond with patience and an open heart. Simple… and hard. -
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I Promise- Winter has to End
You have to be patient. Patience is one of those things we all wish we had more of, so let’s be patient. Pick one thing that feels like it is never going to change and change it. Let go of your desire for immediate gratification and work on slow and steady wins the race. Plan for setbacks. Know you will get discouraged. Take on immeasurable movement.
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Don’t Tell Me to Calm Down…oh…wait
I know you don’t want to hear this but can you chill for a bit? Maybe it is the speed of our lives or the 24 hour news cycle but these are anxious times. Who can blame us for fearing for our kids, our loved ones, the environment, the economy, our health..sorry- this isn’t helping, is it?
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On Solid Ground- Building Trust
Trust– mutual resonance allows shaping and responding to the person we care about while also knowing we are shaping them.
Over time, presence, attunement and resonance create a safe environment. Our relationship becomes a thing- something we count on. Trust is letting go.
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When Things Really Sing- Resonance
Resonance is cohesion and harmony. It shows up when our vulnerability allows us to step into the unknown, the uncertainty of something we haven’t seen before.
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Attunement= Presence + Curiousity
Interpersonal Neurobiology Last week I shared my intro to Interpersonal Neurobiology and the power of Presence…not presents. Interpersonal neurobiology focuses on brain development’s connection to learning, mental health and relationships. I shared Dan Seigel’s acronym for connection- PART Presence, Attunement, Resonance, and Trust. When we connect effectively with someone, we turn on their social engagement system. Engagement allows parents to both impact and learn from their kids, partners to build…
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Our Brains Love Presence…not just presents.
I thought I would take the next couple of blogs and walk through a quick overview of his work on the deep power of connection.
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Here We Go Again! Life is so weird
One way I organize my messy life is by buying notebooks. School supplies make me happy, and smarter, and on top of things. I like notebooks. I have gone tech on everything else but need a good to do list to scratch through. My new system is to make a list of EVERYTHING in one notebook and then make a list of the next 4-5 things that are pressing on…
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My Messy Grateful State
I hope you had a lovely Halloween. At least here in MN where all we ever talk about is weather, this was a good one. I am feeling my age. Not in a bad way… I love the silver in my hair and the occasional bouts of wisdom and clarity I experience. But the passing of seasons. I think that this was the first year I haven’t carved a pumpkin…
