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Summer- Time to Get Naked
Sex is important to relationships. It is. I kind of wish I could tell you it isn’t a big deal but it is right up there with sleep and food. Of course, since most people in our culture are totally screwed up about food and totally sleep deprived, not such a surprise that we are also kind of a disaster in the sack.Couples who aren’t having regular sex freak out and feel insecure in their relationship. Couples that go too long without sex end up looking a lot like siblings- they love each other and are certainly family but man, do they get on each other’s nerves. Sex is protective of love. Sex builds connection. Sex makes us feel better.
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Look Deep into My Eyes
The neurobiology of love is a balance between safety and connection. We want to be free from criticism, hurt, disappointment, loss but we crave deep connection…which leaves us vulnerable and unsafe. If things go well in our childhood we learn to balance that vulnerability with the benefits of others, leaning in and trusting that the hurts aren’t too dangerous and the benefits are so good.
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Let’s Talk about Sex, Baby! Final installment… “After the Lovin”
I know… I should be doing a Father’s Day post but I need to finish up sex. Can helping you all have great sex be my Father’s Day gift? Here’s my 2016 Father’s Day post. I do love dads! And I love sex. What a great combination. Have you been following along? Pt 1– Arousal, Pt 2– Seduction, Pt 3– Sex and now…Afterplay. (In all honesty, following Dr Kyle Zrenchik’s…
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Let’s Talk about Sex, Baby! Pt 3… Bedroom Messes
Week 1 I talked about reconnecting with your erotic side. Week 2 I gave you some ideas about how to bring that sexy stuff to your partner. And today I want to talk about cleaning up some of the messes that might be hiding out in your bedroom. Sex Ed for Old Married Folks Pt 3- Cleaning Up the Messes Lots of old married folk, even those who are mostly…
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Let’s Talk about Sex, Baby! Pt 2 “Wanna do it?”
Last week I talked about reconnecting with your erotic side. If you did your homework and are feeling all sexy this week you might want to bring that to your relationship. Sex Ed for Old Married Folk Pt 2 Becoming Irresistible Again The attachment work of marriage builds deep bounds that offers us safety in a crazy world. We try to love unconditionally, accept our partner’s faults, promise to never…
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Let’s Talk about Sex, Baby! Pt 1- Did I get your attention?
Last week I spent the day learning about “The Couples Erotic Flow”, a sex therapy model that I think is going to revolutionize the world of marriage counseling. Watch out for this guy -Kyle Zrenchik Dr. Z is a Certified Clinical Sexologist so his specialty is “Seeking More Intimacy” and he enjoys working with all kinds of relationships. He is LGBT, Poly, alt, and kink friendly. He challenges his clients…
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Sex in Marriage in the #Me Too Movement
We all feel it. Something has shifted. While I expected 2017 to be the year we got to experience the amazing journey of our first female president, instead we got this. The Trump election was a terrifying statement about racism and sexism in our society. Much has been revealed. This is a time of intense social change. #MeToo #NoMore- They’re talking about it in Hollywood and on Wall Street and…
