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Holiday Family Stress Post 2024
Winter is hitting early in Minnesota this year. We may be doing better than most of the country when it comes to the climate crisis but it can be unpredictable. Like everything else around here… who knows what is coming next?
I wrote this “Assertiveness Bill of Rights” years ago- adapted from a piece by Manuel J. Smith ‘When I say no, I feel guilty’.
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Divorce in the Dystopia
Feminist News posted a (satirical) meme claiming that “Nine male GOP members of Congress have been given divorce papers by their wives since Donald Trump was reelected”. I got excited and shared it before Snopes checking it. Ok- so not true. I so wanted it to be true. I wanted to believe that my Republican sisters had found their voice, their own resistance. And maybe they will. Maybe this is…
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The Resistance Begins Today
2016 Election post Trying to be with my feelings today. I am crushed. Betrayed. Heartbroken. I am hurt and scared. I am pissed. So… I’m leaning into pissed. I am pissed that the election can be controlled by a bunch of people who do not love our country. By people who fear the contributions of immigrants and women and people of color. By people who love power and money more…
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I Love Fiercely!
I was dating this guy a few years ago and he asked what I thought my greatest asset was. Without hesitation, I replied, “I love fiercely!” He told me he was thinking more about my legs. We were not on the same planet. If I were going to recommend one book on relationships it would be bell hooks “All About Love: New Visions.” It is a book I return to…
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I’m Back! A Quick Update
I went to login to my account and had no idea where it was. I last posted in March 2020. I’m not totally sure what all transpired since then but here are the “high” lights. after breaking my ankle and needing surgery, I spend all of January and February on the couch. I was freed to finally walk on March 8th…then stuff got really interesting. I had to find a…
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Pre-Turkey Musings
I always struggle with the “Gratitude” message around November. Of course I get that people who focus on gratitude have less stress and better mental health but when we pressure people to be grateful it often increases shame instead. Sometimes I get sucked into a downward spiral of feeling bad that I feel bad.
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Summer- Time to Get Naked
Sex is important to relationships. It is. I kind of wish I could tell you it isn’t a big deal but it is right up there with sleep and food. Of course, since most people in our culture are totally screwed up about food and totally sleep deprived, not such a surprise that we are also kind of a disaster in the sack.Couples who aren’t having regular sex freak out and feel insecure in their relationship. Couples that go too long without sex end up looking a lot like siblings- they love each other and are certainly family but man, do they get on each other’s nerves. Sex is protective of love. Sex builds connection. Sex makes us feel better.
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Rewriting the Pink Holiday
Romance communicates admiration, devotion, and lust for that person who means the world to you. It requires emotion, intention and action. You can try finding something at Target…because Target has everything but you have to bring your own feelings, set your own intention and put your expression into action.
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When Things Really Sing- Resonance
Resonance is cohesion and harmony. It shows up when our vulnerability allows us to step into the unknown, the uncertainty of something we haven’t seen before.
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Our Brains Love Presence…not just presents.
I thought I would take the next couple of blogs and walk through a quick overview of his work on the deep power of connection.
