Season Recap- here’s what you missed 2019-2024
After blogging as “The Marriage Geek” since 2008 I announced my divorce here in 2018.
“There are no simple answers as to why. At some point you decide that the work of marriage is no longer your journey and the work of divorce is the next chapter. Sad, scary, complicated- it is time to change course.”
On New Year’s Eve 2019 I fell rock climbing, shattered my ankle, and got my physical and emotional ass handed to me. I never felt more alone, more vulnerable, more broken…and then a few weeks into recovery from surgery, days after I got permission to walk again- BAM! Lockdown.
The lockdown taught me more than I think I wanted to know about myself. Trying to be a therapist and support people while going through the same trauma was…challenging?
I also totally lost my workshop income. I took a break from blogging. I just needed some time to regroup.
2023 was a big year. I bought the smallest and most expensive house I have ever lived in. Like with most things we love, I vacillate between joy and terror. It is my anchor and my albatross. Living and working in Bloomington has this lovely small-town feel and I hardly ever need gas.
I turned 60 in August. I love 60. I love this chapter in life. So much is settled and the path ahead suggests lots of side quests.
In March, Joey turned 22 and Zach turned 20. They are good. My positive parenting “science experiment” has their seal of approval.
Nate turns 40 this fall. My father warned me that your oldest child’s milestone birthdays become harder than your own. He was right. I have had kids at home for 40 years. Parenting has been my guiding light- taking me into my own growth, facing my shortcomings, and teaching me to love fiercely.
- Professionally I am doing as much divorce work as marriage work these days. I continue to believe in hanging in there…until it is time to say goodbye. I have added family mediation and discernment services to my counseling work. More
- I have had my heart broken at least 4 times, been disappointed and betrayed but have also loved fiercely and felt…felt so deeply. “All, everything that I understand, I understand only because I love.” —Leo Tolstoy
- I have done a great deal of soul searching, listened to podcasts, read tons of books, discussed ad nauseum, found my community an now proudly say that I identify as polyamorous. I think my fascination with alternative relationship structures began long before I became a therapist. Being poly doesn’t matter professionally but I do see more couples from the poly community as well as those considering Ethical Non Monogamy. Always open to questions. More
- I have been exploring the world of plant medicine and psychedelic-assisted therapy. (marijuana, mushrooms, LDS, MDMA and ketamine) I am deeply angry at the field of psychology for selling out in the war on drugs and getting in bed with big pharma. I am hopeful for the path we are on and fear that we will simply sell out again. I hope to be able to better support healing as soon as we make it legal. I am always open to questions. More
Stay tuned!