Tag / hurt feelings
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I am so sorry- That must have hurt
People tell me their big drama relationship stories all day. That’s what I do for a living, mostly I listen and reflect big feelings. Years of this and you start to notice things- patterns, threads, trends. The answer to the big drama is “oh, that must have hurt”. “Oh you got your feelings hurt” is so dismissive. We need permission to have the hurt in order to decide what we want to do next.
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Our Violent Reaction to Being Hurt
The number one thing that couples fight about is not what you might think. We always fight about getting our feelings hurt. We argue about the dishes and money and time but it isn’t a fight until someone’s feeling get hurt- and someone’s feelings always get hurt. And the gloves come off. Attachment relationships mean we NEED the connection and support of a few key people and having that sense…
