Let’s admit it- 90% of my fans are wives, most of them with husbands and most of what is out there about Valentine’s Day is ads for pink crap, flowers and candy. I covered the pink crap at Target and women’s needs around Valentine’s Day last year- https://www.marriagegeek.com/374

How about a little husband loving? Monday I am presenting at the 13th Annual Minnesota Fatherhood and Families Network Summit www.mnfathers.org so I have fathers on the brain this week.

Men can be hard to love. They act like they don’t need anything. They don’t seem to care. They tell you they’re fine. They don’t know what they want. They don’t want you to make a big deal about stuff. When I googled for an image of men and love I got men giving gifts. When I googled spoiled husband I got memes about husbands spoiling their wives. If we want to turn this world of gender roles on its head we can invite them to the table as equals in romance and seduction.

Some stuff that men really like-

Appreciation. Tell him that you know how much he loves you. Tell him that you see how much he does. Tell him he makes you happy. Do you know that that is most husband’s greatest desire- that he make you happy? You can tell him privately- in a letter or a card or sing his praises on Facebook.

Pampering. He does… it just looks different in blue. Buy him the best of something, something he would have a hard time buying for himself. This can be getting his car detailed, a thick t-bone, good beer,tickets to something or a Starbucks card. Some highly evolved men actually like pedicures or massages or that fancy shaving place.

Sex. Come one who doesn’t want someone to give them sex? Not oh, ok, I suppose sex but generous, focused, totally unselfish sex. Men love to be seduced, approached. They just love it when you initiate. Combine sex and pampering and pop for a room.

Romance. You know him. You pay attention. Do that thing you did a long time ago. Take him to that place he took you. Propose to him this time. Remind him of the most romantic loving things he ever did for you. Surprise him. Dress up- the way you used to when you were working to win his heart.
You’ve got a few days… give it some thought. Taking on leadership in the sexual and romantic side of your relationship can be super fun. Good luck.